CONSIDERING THE IMMEASURABLE AND UNBEARABLE PAIN OF INFIDELITY
For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in lustful passion, like the Gentiles who do not know God; and that no man transgress and defraud his brother in the matter because the Lord is the avenger in all these things, just as we also told you before and solemnly warned you. For God has not called us for the purpose of impurity, but in sanctification. – 1 Thessalonians 4:3-7
It is weighing heavy on my mind that God wants men and women to live
sanctified lives, but men and women don’t seem to know this or care
(1 Thess 4:3-7). It is not only non-Christians who are breaking their vow to be faithful in marriage. Many Christians are ignoring the will of God to live sanctified lives. Not walking with God, they have turned their eyes to lustful things. This is the work of the Devil and many are being hurt. Families are broken, children are damaged, and hearts are broken over the sexual immorality that is plaguing our land. The problem has become epidemic and threatens the precious body of Christ. Because the home is so special to God, it must hurt Him to see these things.
Just this past week (2006) I’ve heard of two true stories where men in a congregation down south have been found out for their sexual immorality. A deacon is in trouble for illegally video-taping a family member. He is, needless to say, in some serious trouble. Along with this, it is also alleged that he downloaded child porn onto his computer. Up until the arrest, he served as a deacon of the church for many years. And then, another man from the same congregation, a prominent member and leader, stepped forward to confess to the congregation that he had been unfaithful to his wife. He said that he would draw near to God and strive to correct the wrongs he had done and only hoped that he could save his marriage. It is so very sad to think of the number of tears that have been shed by the loved ones.
We should grieve for the wives, husbands, fathers, and mothers, and the children who have been hurt so badly. All of us should grieve for the church that is harmed when we sin. We should be praying that these transgressors find their way back to God and receive His forgiveness. Instead of focusing on judging others, we ought to all be praying and drawing near to God so that we do not fall into the same sin.
We may be seeing only the tip of the proverbial iceberg. For every deed that is known, good or bad, there may be a hundred that remain secret and known only to God. Just as we do not see every good deed, it is undoubtedly true that we are seeing only the tip of the iceberg. I’m not suggesting that all men are secretly bad, but it isn’t likely that only those two men who have been exposed are guilty of breaking their vows. Others sit in the pews, unrepentant, while public prayers are pronounced for those.
If you are looking at porn on the Internet or in magazines, stop now! “Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double- minded” (Jas. 4:8). If you are in sin, would you seek the Lord now before it is too late? If you are thinking lustful thoughts about women, even a Christian sister, would you repent now before you suffer unbearable consequences? Let us all pray for the church to be healed and for families to be healed. We need to help the families that have been left without a husband, father, and supporter. Now is the time for Leaders, Preachers, Teachers, Deacons, and other Christians to repent of private sins before they are made public.
Be faithful to God. I believe that all unfaithfulness begins in the relationship between us and our God. How can a person be faithful to God and unfaithful to her husband or his wife? When we let go of our faith and resist the will of God, then it is only a matter of time that this sin begins to take root and produce the fruit of unrighteousness. I once told a Christian teacher that I would never again fall away because I had seen how terrible it was to walk away from God and I never wanted to experience that again. He told me that the moment I felt I was safe, then complacency would set in, and I would be in danger of falling away. I now agree with that teacher. Another Christian reminded me of the passage that says: “Therefore let him who thinks he stands take heed lest he fall” (I Cor. 10:12). We are all in danger of a fall unless we faithfully walk with the Lord and seek His constant help.
Please pray about this matter and pray for the families who are hurting. Share this prayer and admonition with others. – Dan Mayfield
Dear Father, This is my prayer to stay faithful with your help. Please Father deliver us from temptation and give us the strength and courage to walk in the light. I will trust in your promises and in your righteous way. I will be more aware of your truth and accept the guidance of it. I will think on good things and shun what is evil. I will devote more time to prayer and the study of your Word. Forgive me when I sin and forgive my Brothers who have repented. I don’t know what will be the outcome of their broken lives, but I pray that healing and restoration will come to them. Thank you for giving us your Son to hear us and to cleanse us. You I will make my strength and constant Companion. In His name we pray, Amen.
Updated on February 8, 2006