In 2 Samuel is the account of Amnon, the firstborn of King David, who lusted for Tamar, his half-sister. It says, “Amnon was so frustrated because of his sister Tamar, that his frustration made made him ill,…” (2 Sam. 13:2). Because she was beautiful he deeply wanted to have his way and sleep with her. So strong was this desire that he listened to the foolish advice from a friend. His friend said, “Lie down on your bed and pretend to be ill; when your father comes to see you, say to him, ‘Please let my sister Tamar come and give me some food to eat, and let her prepare the food in my sight, that I may see it and eat from her hand.‘” (vs.5). Imagine such a scheme making sense, but it did to Amnon. Once a plan seems reasonable, the next step is to act on it which Amnon did. So badly did he want her that he was ready to employ deceptions and prey on the good intentions and kindness of his father and half sister. To his own father, David, he would carry out the plot. To the sweet virgin sister, he would have her to nurse him as if on a sickbed. Amnon plays out his part in the evil scheme that began with the want of something sinful. Amnon’s heart was so cold and calculating that when he went to force himself on her, her appeals could not stop him. “However, he would not listen to her; since he was stronger than she, he violated her and lay with her” (vs.14). He wanted what he wanted. His want for a sinful thing led him to commit a great evil.
After Amnon had his way with her, the fruit became bitter. He added to his evil by turning on her and having her removed from his home. She begged him not to worsen his sin, but he said to his attendant, “throw this woman out of my presence, and lock the door behind her.” Amnon’s want was satisfied. He didn’t love her; he lusted for her. To appease his conscience, his “love” for her turned to hatred. And Tamar was left to mourn.
What do we want? Are we careful about what we want? We should be because when we really want something, we focus all of our energies to acquire it: good or bad. What do you want? What is your consuming passion? If you are wanting for what you know is sin, please pray and seek God before you do something you will regret.