DON’T GET MARRIED.
Marriage is designed by God, not by the United States government. At best, govt. can only help to organize and record, and if wise, encourage it for the benefit of a stable society. As God designed the biology for procreation, so God designed for the children brought about the union in marriage to have their own father and mother. People who don’t understand this should not get married.
DON’T HAVE SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE.
The only place the Bible speaks of sexual relations, including sexual touching and not just sexual intercourse, is in the marriage union. The marriage bed is honorable in the eyes of God and it is to remain undefiled. Sexual relations by young people is a sin. The sexual situations depicted by most in Hollywood is a mockery of human sexuality as God designed it.
SEXUAL RELATIONS IS IMPORTANT
The message being put forward by our godless culture is conflicted nonsense. Sex is so important to the godless culture depicted in television and movies that it is used to draw audiences and make large sums of money. As important as sex is, still it is treated as a cavalier thing that’s worthless. Used tonight and tossed out tomorrow with the trash. “Oh no, it didn’t mean anything….it’s just sex.” The nonsense coming from our modern culture doesn’t match reality.
MARRIAGE IS TOO IMPORTANT TO ENTER WITHOUT A LIFELONG COMMITMENT
40% of all children are born out of wedlock. These used to be called “bastard” children, the product of loose morals and lack of control. The children are too important and too innocent to be called names. But the free sex is creating an epidemic problem for these children who are bearing the brunt of the weight for the trespasses of their parents. The emotional toll is palpable. The social science statistics have now made it clear that these children are more likely to be emotionally unstable and it will carry over into their adult lives. Drugs, poverty, and an inability to develop meaningful relationships will more likely describe their lives.
DON’T MARRY BUT IF YOU DO THEN MARRY SOMEONE WHO HAS THE COMMITMENT TO STAY FOR LIFE
God’s design is always best. Men should find a woman who wants a home and wants to love and nurture the children they produce. Women should find men who are responsible and faithful. Don’t marry until you find a godly person who will help you walk the Christian walk. And when you marry, work through the problems. Bring love and kindness into your marriage. And as mommy and daddy, work together for the raising of your children to know the Lord Jesus. If you are spiritual and marry someone who does not love the Lord, who is not a spiritual-minded person, you are doing something unspiritual by knowingly becoming unequally yoked. This will be a disaster to your faith or to the faith of the children offspring of the marriage union. Marry wisely.
IF YOU MARRY, REALIZE ITS FOR LIFE AND YOU DON’T GET A SECOND CHANCE.
The teaching of Jesus and the Apostles is that marriage is for life and man is not to separate. The only two exceptions we have in the Bible that would permit a second marriage is “the death of the spouse” or if the spouse was sexually unfaithful. When you say “I do” and marry, it’s for better or for worse, through the thick and the thin, and it’s for life. The cause of “irreconcilable differences” is not satisfactory to God. It will stand up in the American courts, but it won’t satisfy God when standing before His court. The godless culture makes marriage to mean little, but it’s very important to God who “hates divorce”, Mal. 2:16. God still hates it. If you are looking for an escape clause from your marriage, you won’t find it. You can’t kill your spouse and you can’t neglect the marriage for the purpose of encouraging your spiritually weak spouse to commit adultery. Your guilt will not be unnoticed by God. But say you are faithful and loving, unless your spouse has slept around on you, you don’t have and never will have the right to remarry. Spiritual people understand it’s hard to break the marriage bond which God keeps a record of. Divorcing because “we were young and didn’t know what we were doing” isn’t a cause of divorcing and remarrying. For most divorced people, the words of Paul still apply, “remain unmarried or be reconciled”, 1 Cor. 7:10,11. So the marriage union is for the most part a permanent thing and there’s not the chance of a second marriage except for the death of the spouse.
The breakdown of marriage is an epidemic in the United States. Don’t be part of this statistic. Don’t get married unless you mean it for life.