Marriage is for life. And there’s no legalistic way to get out of it. God designed the marriage between a man and a woman to be a lifetime bond. There are no easy escapes from it. You can’t just grow tired of your woman and give her a piece of paper and be free. No one who has any kind of decency, or faith, or spirit of God in them seeks such a legalistic remedy to get out of their marriage.
“Yet you say, ‘For what reason?’ Because the Lord has been a witness between you and the wife of your youth, against whom you have dealt treacherously, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant. But no one has done so who has a remnant of the Spirit. And what did that one do while he was seeking a godly offspring? Take heed then to your spirit, and let no one deal treacherously against the wife of your youth. For I hate divorce,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “and him who covers his garment with wrong,” says the Lord of hosts. “So take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.” Malachi 2:14-16
In Matthew 19 after Jesus was asked if a man could divorce for any reason, the disciples responded to Jesus’ answer saying, ” if it’s like this between a man and a woman it’s better not to marry.” I do not believe Jesus is discouraging marriage, but he is most definitely saying that you cannot divorce for any cause. The legalistic attitude of writing a bill of divorce to get out of a marriage is not approved by Jesus Christ.
God still hates divorce and no one with the Spirit would say otherwise.
The upshot from Jesus teaching is that there are people who may not Mary again because if they do they are committing adultery, which is an ongoing sexual sin. The very difficult implications of divorcing without justification is why it is best not to marry until you are mature and are convinced the person you are marrying is the kind of person you can be with for a lifetime. Do not marry somebody out of sympathy. Do not marry a person who you know is mentally unstable. Do not marry a person who does not love God and have agape love for others. Sometimes it is better not to marry.
“3For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality; 4that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, 5not in lustful passion, like the Gentiles who do not know God; 6and that no man transgress and defraud his brother in the matter because the Lord is the avenger in all these things, just as we also told you before and solemnly warned you. 7For God has not called us for the purpose of impurity, but in sanctification.” 1 Thess. 4:3ff.
I am not saying that instead of marrying that a person should live with another person in a state of fornication. God will judge adulterers and homosexuals and fornicators, Heb. 13:4. God expects for human beings who are made in His image, who have a conscience, to act like human beings, not dogs, by exercising self-control. We need to be controlling this body, this vessel, in sanctification. This means that God expects sexual purity. This means that God expects for people to practice abstinence. This means that God sometimes expects for people to live as if they are eunuchs.
Because ignoring Jesus’ instruction on divorce and remarriage has such heavy and life-long implications, often times it is better not to marry.