Psychology shames people while saying it is controlling and wrong to shame people. The one writing the article talks about a time when she was young when her dad made a comment about how fast she ate her pie instead of slowing down. She still feels the burning of shame from that instance. The point being made is it’s wrong to say something that makes people feel shame. Psychology is all about controlling people. It is all about pointing out good and bad behavior and thinking. How ridiculous then for Psychology to suggest that a person shouldn’t be made to feel ashamed for the bad.
In the article it says, “Brown defines shame as ‘the intense painful feeling or experience of believing we are flawed and therefore unworthy of acceptance and belonging.'” But what if we are flawed and a dangerous or obnoxious flaw is pointed out? What if dad was teaching proper etiquette? It is pretty ridiculous that this woman writes an article years later and brings up something to shame her dad! People should feel bad when they have broken the rules. People should feel shame for hurting others. People should feel shame when they sin or trespass against others. The writer admits it works – while saying it is also ‘nefarious’ – saying that we are probably ‘wired’ to feel shame so that we fit in to the society. These are words of evolution theory which makes no sense.
In Hosea 10 we learn that the images Israel has been worshiping will be carried away and the people will be ashamed of the pitiful counsel they followed from the idols. When we sin, if it is pointed out, we should be ashamed. Trespassing is wrong and shameful. Going against God is wrong and shameful. The millennial mindset is conditioned to be ‘triggered’ over being told something it doesn’t like. ‘Triggering’ is the way people respond when they cannot be wrong and they feel justified to shame others for making them feel bad.
“BEHOLD, I LAY IN ZION A STONE OF STUMBLING AND A ROCK OF OFFENSE, AND HE WHO BELIEVES IN HIM WILL NOT BE DISAPPOINTED.” Romans 9:33
But to love truth and to love the things of God will never bring shame. Do what is right and you will have nothing to be ashamed of.